Posts Tagged “friends”

As if the 31 inches of snow that we got the weekend before Christmas wasn’t enough, Mother Nature and her distorted sense of humor decided to give us another 8 inches(+) over night last night. Unfortunately, it doesn’t stop there. We are still under a winter storm warning until Sunday, and there is snow forecast nearly every day next week. ♫Oh what fun it is to♫ …. yea, whatever.

I like the winter because it gets dark early, and that is pretty much the only reason. The early dark means that the kids are ready for bed about 7pm and that gives Mommy and Daddy a few hours to not  be Mommy and Daddy. One of us is usually on the computer and one of us is playing the DS. Occasionally, we will watch a movie and have some ice cream to wind down. Those evening are nice. One of the kids usually wakes up before midnight and joins us in bed, but I don’t mind. The few hours to escape are usually all I need.

We are headed out for the neighbors birthday party today, deep snow and all. We’ve gotten pretty used to still being mobile in the snow. If we didn’t, we would hardly go anywhere. The cold, now that is a different story. It’s almost noon, and it’s 12°F. (For you Celsius people, that’s -11.) I used to be able to stand the cold when I was younger. Man, it didn’t matter how cold it was I was outside sledding, playing football, or wrestling in the snow. I’m surprised my fingers and toes never fell off.

As I got older I would build huge bonfires and have sledding parties. Friends all over the community would show up and much fun was had by all. It was nice to warm by the fire while sitting out in dark and conversing with friends. We usually did more talking than sledding on those late nights. Have you ever been to an after dark sledding party with a bonfire? Please tell me about it in the comments section below.

It’s just about time to start the truck and let it warm up for a half hour before we head out to the party, so I had better get to it.

Until next time…

Tags: Birthday Parties, Birthday Party, Bonfire, Bonfires, Christmas, Comments Section, Deep Snow, Different Story, Fingers And Toes, friends, Mommy And Daddy, Mother Nature, neighbors, Sense Of Humor, Sledding Party, Snow Forecast, Winter Storm Warning, Wrestling, Yea, Younger Man

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A friend of mine from way back in grade school stopped by recently while I was in the middle of browsing for new HDMI cables. We rarely get the chance to talk anymore, and it’s even more rare to actually get a chance to sit down with a few beers and really talk.

After the usual “What have you been into lately” B.S. we got into the discussion of what was happening with our more private family lives. He began to tell me of some drama in his life and I had to pick my jaw up off the floor a couple of times.

His story goes a little something like this:

He went through chemo for some type of lymphoma a few years ago. Before the chemo, he was asked if he wanted to preserve a couple of samples of his sperm in case he wanted to have children later on in life. It was possible that the chemo could make him sterile so he opted to have the samples frozen. They would be good for 10 years.

A couple of weeks ago he gets a phone call from the sperm bank / clinic. A woman had come in and was curious about the identity of the donor she had used to create her 18-month-old child. The clinic agreed to check because the donor had not wished to remain anonymous.

The clinic told the woman who her donor was, and to double check for accuracy, they matched the baby’s DNA to that of the donor.

Problem. It didn’t match.

They ran a search on all their donors, and the baby’s DNA matched that of my buddy.

Due to a clerical error / filling mistake / leaving the important shit to morons, his sperm was used as a donors sperm. He was told that he didn’t have to contact the lady if he didn’t want to.

He currently doesn’t know what he is going to do, and he was noticeably distraught by this. I feel for the guy, I really do…but I had not an inking of advice for him. I think I said damn several times. That’s about all I could muster. What do you say to someone that is going through something like this?

Tags: friends, sperm

As many of you know, I live in West Virginia, in a very tiny (unincorporated) town of less than 200 people. A couple of years ago someone in this town was murdered. It wasn’t just any someone, it was a girl who I knew, and went to school with.

She was a year or two behind me at school, but I knew her. She lived not too far away from me, and her best friend was the younger sister of a kid I knew quite well. I had to walk to catch the school bus and so did she. I remember seeing her quite a lot, and even talking to her occasionally.

After she died, the news was full of stories that growing up she was a good middle class girl that got into some really bad drugs that messed her up, but that wasn’t my recollection. Even at the age of 13/14 she hung around with the “bad boys” and was known to sleep around. She always hung out with the wrong people and was smoking cigarette’s and weed at a young age, and drinking at a young age with certain pricks from my class who used to hang around with younger girls because no one else would be impressed by the fact they had the ability to score some weed. I remember at 15 beating up the “leader” of the group she hung around with because he hocked a loogey on a plastic ruler and then flicked it onto my shirt in class. Apparently he did it because he thought my reaction would be “funny”. Guess I showed him.

In no sense was I friends with her, and I can’t really say I ever had a genuine conversation with her. She was a few years younger than me, and hung out with different people. I don’t know what I feel, if I feel anything, about her death. Of course, I wish things hadn’t worked out like they did. I wish she hadn’t been killed, but only in the general sense I would feel the same about anyone in that situation or anyone who had such a bad end. From what I read in the papers she was in and out of work, drifted into some hard drug abuse, and ended up working as a prostitute, more or less. It’s just so hard to connect the image I have of her from school, walking past my driveway, past my house on her way to school – to a corpse dumped in the woods by some monster.

Obviously she made mistakes in her life, and chose to go down the wrong path. There were so many other lives ahead of her, so many other paths she could have went down. I don’t know whether to think that she was just a random victim of a terrible force, or if destruction was more fixed in the path she took. You could blame life, her parents, the world, drugs, and the sick bastard that killed her, or, (D) all of the above. I’ve known people who have died because of drugs. I’ve known people who died because they were sick from cancer. I’ve had several family members that have died, and I had a friend who died from a four-wheeler wreck when he was riding with another kid who was messed up on E and booze, but sometimes I just can’t get my head around the girl who was murdered.

By no means is this grief (this did happen some years ago.) She was someone I could barely remember and who I hadn’t seen or thought of for 10 years. But what strikes me is that the nature of the crime is so awful, and so foul. Her killer seemed to be nothing more than a pompous ass during his trial. How can such bad things be reconciled to a man like that?

I guess this is one of the disadvantages of living in such a small town. I know everyone that lived around me while I was growing up, and I remember them to this day. It’s always a shock when something like this happens here. Thankfully, they are few and far between.

Tags: death, friends, school, town