What Really Defines A Person?

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I discussed this with some friends and found out their general feeling is “what you have is what you are”.

“If today they have money & tomorrow they lose it all, then are they the same person ?”

My opinion – No, they are not.

First, people who have a lot of money don’t just suddenly lose it over night. They can lose significant amounts of money at one time, but for the most part if they have that much money, they have a backup plan. Losing one’s money is usually done at a gradual pace, unless you are like the bloke from the UK who went to Vegas and bet his life savings on one spin of the wheel. No backup plan. Stupid. People don’t usually do that.

Second, when people start to lose money the cracks in the personality start to show. They become a little more irritable, they start losing sleep, they may develop some type of substance abuse. Depending on how much they lose at any given time the results can be more or less dramatic.

Third, they are poor. They go from being rich to being poor overnight. Won’t happen, but let’s use your hypothesis. Imagine losing all your worldly possessions overnight. The house, the pool, the hot tub, the home theater, the cars, everything. Gone. Now Mr. Jones goes from sleeping on satin sheets to sleeping on Wal-Mart sheets. There will be some changes in the person. Very dramatic changes. The guy who used to cut Mr. Jones’ yard is now his boss. You are not the same person when you are poor. You now have to learn what fixed asset accounting is.

What you have is how other people perceive you. Obviously, if you have a nice house and drive a Lamborghini or a Porsche, than other people will believe you are doing quite well. They may not know that you are in debt up to your nose and sinking fast. Or that your wife is sleeping with your attorney and your 15 year old daughter just had a wonderful time with the football team.

The person I am to you is the person I choose to let you see. I don’t drive nice cars, I don’t live in a big home. I am just an average Joe as far as you know. You know what I do for a living and you know a little about my personal life. Hell, you may have even been in my house a couple of times. But do you really think you know me by what I let you see?

Human beings are funny. Everybody wants to be liked. People will do some strange things to get to that point. So the next time you are talking to friend face to face, try to figure out what it is they are hiding from you. What kink in the personality don’t they want you to see. Try to figure out if you really know this person, or if you really want to. It could be fun. Or it couldn’t be.


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You Know You’re A Badass Spider When…..

you can kill a snake, and wrap him in your sticky web.

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Scary, isn’t it?


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How much does an oath mean to you?

oath.jpgIf someone borrows $10. from someone and says, “Before God I swear to you that I will repay you.” How many people do you think will be bound by that?

Promises, vows, oaths, etc. and those made without invoking any deity. “I vow to you you I will….”

To me that locks one into fulfilling that, but I see so many people who feel it’s just a bunch of words.

What do you think? That person to whom the promise/oath/vow/swear an oath to…. whatever……was made. Do you think that person was just a sucker to believe it?

Or do you think the one who gave that oath is bound by it?

When I was much younger, I think I believed in oaths, vows etc. Then life moved on giving me experience, quite often hard, which led me to the fact that now I don’t believe in oaths at all.

Life is so dynamic that too many times it surprises you with twists, so you have to be prepared for changes. Also people change thus changing your attitude towards them. Needless to say, you can’t be 100% sure that you know them well enough to give any vow or believe them when they give one.

This consideration leads to the conclusion that being mature, one shouldn’t give any oaths or swear to God. I think giving vows is rather childish and quite often it is nothing more than a manipulation.

Some may say that I live unhappy life with this kind of attitude. I would answer, no it’s not that I’m unhappy because of my lack of faith in humans. I actually believe in people when they say “I can do this for you” or “I’ll try my best” but not when someone says “I swear to god or whatever…” or ” I will never” or “I will always”…


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